My Mental Health Awareness Month Lesson: It’s Never Too Late

May 17

It’s mental health awareness month, and opportunities for growth and increasing our wellbeing are all around us. We simply need to know where to look. For me, this “looking” had the most literal of meanings. For mental health awareness month, I scheduled an appointment with a new eye doctor.I learned a lesson for mental health awareness month. It's never too late for the brain to heal.

Many people might wonder about this. For mental health awareness month, rather than seeing a therapist or other mental health professional, I treated myself to an eye appointment. Mind and body aren’t fully separate. Sure, they have separate components, but all of those components make up the single whole that is you (and me — each and every human on the planet).

To be mentally healthy, we need to tend to our whole selves. My vision leaves a lot to be desired. I’ve worn glasses since I was a child, but my vision worsened after a traumatic brain injury (TBI) in 2004 followed by two more concussions within a couple of years. Because I had never been able to find an eye doctor who specializes in TBI and vision, I assumed that I would just have to deal with lack of clarity, light sensitivity, becoming overstimulated easily, double vision, and more. When I realized that there is indeed such a thing as an eye doctor who knows about TBI’s impact on vision, I was encouraged…and then did nothing about it for several months.

I was interested in such an eye doctor, and I believed wholeheartedly that yes, brain injuries can negatively impact vision and that yes, while some damage may be permanent, there are things that can be done to lead to significant improvement. That’s what wellbeing is all about: making choices and taking action, small steps at at time, to make positive changes in life. I believe that this is possible for everyone. Yet I didn’t believe in it for myself in this very specific instance.

Fourteen years is a long time, long enough to make any effects of a TBI permanent. After all, weren’t things “set” now so that improvement in my vision would be impossible? Happily, I was wrong (I’m not always happy when I’m wrong, but in this case, it works for me so I’ll own my error). The brain possesses a quality known as neuroplasticity, which means that it can adapt, even more than a decade after a brain injury. It’s never too late for treatment and improvement. Many things can help the brain continue to improve.

For mental health awareness month, I learned that it's never too late for the brain to heal.Therefore, for Mental Health Awareness Month, I saw a new eye doctor in hopes that I would be able to improve some things about my vision that are bothersome. Mental health is not passive. Mental health means making choices and taking action to enhance wellbeing and quality of life. I am very glad that I decided to see an eye doctor who specializes in brain injury because I discovered that it’s not too late to improve my vision and functioning.

What are your mental health goals? What would increase the quality of your life? Whatever you envision for your mental health, know that it’s not too late. What will you do today to get started?


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Mental Health Awareness Month Book Giveaway!

May 2

It’s Mental Health Awareness Month, and to celebrate, I’m giving away copies of my books. I’m doing it twice, actually: once in the middle of the month, and once at the end.

It's Mental Health Awareness Month, and that's something to celebrate. To do that, I'm giving away copies of my books. Come participate to win.

 Why celebrate mental health awareness month?

Because mental health is something that applies to each and every one of us, and it’s very important. Mental health

Why celebrate mental health awareness month by giving away books?

  • *Books are therapeutic; bibliotherapy is a healing approach that uses the reading of books (fiction and non-fiction) to heal and thrive.
  • *Books are part of self-care; they invite us to spend quality downtime, to relax, to escape, and to learn.
  • *Reading enhances mental health and wellbeing.
  • *Books build connections, empathy, understanding, and other warm fuzzies.

The Books You Can Win in This Mental Health Awareness Month Giveaway


Twenty-Four Shadows

My Life in a Nutshell: A Novel

Leave of Absence

Losing Elizabeth


Break Free: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy in 3 Steps




Book Giveaways for Mental Health Awareness Month: How It Works

One copy of each book will be given away on May 15, and one copy of each book will be given away on May 31. Five people will win a book in the middle of May, and five more will win a copy of a book at the end of May.

Answer the below question in the comment section at the bottom of the page. That’s it!

But you can get your name entered three times. In addition to answering the question,

  • Sign up for the Wellbeing & Words newsletter (form below).
  • Visit me on Facebook (Tanya J. Peterson, NCC). Like my page if you haven’t already, and share the pinned post (it has an image of a brain reading a book).

Each of these actions gets you registered for a chance to win a book! Mental health, after all, is all about action, about taking steps toward what you want.

The question:

What is your favorite way/place to de-stress with a book? (Scroll to the bottom of the page and leave your reply!)
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En-JOY is an Action Verb: Mental Health Means Enjoying a Life Worth Living

May 12


The term mental health has become quite a buzz word (and well it should), but as a concept, it is very broad. What does mental health really mean? At its core, it means not merely the absence of illness; mental health means thriving and enjoying a life worth living.

Mental Health Awareness Month is in full swing, and how wonderful it is.  To have an entire month dedicated to increasing awareness about mental health and wellbeing is in itself something to celebrate. It means that we as humans want to be well, to not only exist but to live and to thrive, and we want to raise awareness so that this wellness can be achieved by all.

Truly, mental health and a life worth living can indeed be achieved by everyone. Happily, these concepts don’t discriminate. Each and every human being on this planet can create his/her own life worth living. Positive psychology is a field dedicated to helping people transcend challenges and problems and make meaning in their own lives.

To transcend problems is not necessarily to completely get rid of them. That’s not always so realistic. We, as human beings, face myriad challenges in our lives, including (and certainly not limited to) various physical and mental illnesses. Do these health challenges mean that a life worth living is out of reach? Is it possible to thrive and have wellness while simultaneously living with a physical or mental illness?

The answer is simple, and admittedly it’s not necessarily easy: a resounding and confident yes. Really? Is it really possible for someone living with depression or anxiety, for example, to thrive? (Yes.) Does he/she need to wait for the depression or anxiety to be gone in order to live a life worth living? (No.)

Here's how enjoy is an action verb and how we can use it to create mental health and a life worth living.Creating a life worth living is a grand adventure, a majestic quest that begins with a mere step and continues one small step at a time. At the heart of it is finding joy, day by day and moment by moment. Mental health means thriving and enjoying a life worth living.

Enjoying a life worth living. En-JOY is an action verb. A question to explore over and over again is how can I create joy in this moment (or this hour or during this event, etc.)? This isn’t a superficial joy or putting on a superficial—and artificial—happy face. This is about paying attention to who you are, where you are, and what you are doing and creating joy in that moment.

As someone who once experienced a significant amount of social anxiety, I used to live in fear of being judged wherever I went. While I was able to make myself go out and about in the world, I did so with anxiety and dread. One time, I vented to a mentor that I didn’t want to attend a certain event because I knew I would do something stupid and make everyone look down on me more than they already did. My mentor merely grunted and said, “What do you care what people think? Does it matter? Just go have fun and enjoy the experience.”

Perhaps you’re thinking what I initially did, that he completely trivialized my anxiety and clearly didn’t understand. Thanks to my superhuman ability to ruminate, I mulled over his comment repeatedly, for days. And nights. And more days. Eventually, his remarks began to blend with what I already knew about positive psychology, counseling, and wellness. It spilled over into other areas of my personal life and experiences as well as into my experiences in working with others. Things began to click.

No matter our challenges, we can all take an active role in owning our own lives. We can create joy, even little joys, in our lives. Feeling that life isn’t worth living? Find things that you are grateful for, that you like and that you enjoy, and focus more on them. Perhaps it’s fresh air but the thought of going out of the house makes you want to hide in bed and never get out. How about opening a window and enjoying the feel of the air? Then later what about opening the door? Then maybe enjoy a step or two outside. Concentrate on how good these things feel rather than how hard they are or what might happen. Little by little, you are en-JOYing your life.

Once I understood that “enjoy” is an action verb and that I could thus act to make joy in my life, to make my life worth living, I found myself transcending my anxiety. I didn’t need it to go away before I could have a life worth living. Waiting doesn’t work. Instead, I took charge of enjoying my life and making it worth living. It was then that I found that true happiness (not a problem-free happiness but a core satisfaction with life and all of its ups and downs and twists and turns) means actively making joy rather than passively waiting for it to appear.

My Life in a Nutshell: A Novel is the story of two people who don’t quite know how to live in the world—the man, Brian, because of debilitating anxiety; the girl, Abigail, because of instability and abuse.  Neither one of them feels they have a life worth living until they slowly begin to create joy. One time, Abigail says enthusiastically, “Come on, Brian. Let’s go play in the rain!” That, right there, is the embodiment of enjoyment. Play in your rain!




I’m Good because I Own my Mental Illness

Sep 14

  I’m proud to join the I’m Good campaign hosted by P.E.E.R.S. (Peers Envisioning and Engaging in Recovery Services). This proactive, pro-mental health organization has created this campaign to raise awareness of mental illness — and mental health — issues during Mental Health Awareness Month. Join in and and share how YOU are good! I'm Good badge   Like many of the millions of people living with mental illness, I haven’t always been good. My most “ungood” period involved five stays in a behavioral health hospital over the course of a couple years. Under Armour Curry 3 I was admitted for the first time because of a plummeting ability to function in daily life. It was a result of a traumatic brain injury sustained in a car accident, or so I believed. Early on, I was diagnosed with bipolar 1 disorder, generalized anxiety disorder, and social anxiety disorder. But that was wrong, I said. I had a brain injury, not mental illness. I grew increasingly “ungood” throughout the revolving-door treatment. I was “ungood” when my employer politely let me go when it was discovered that I was hospitalized, not in a regular hospital for brain injury stuff, but in a behavioral health hospital for mental illness. I was “ungood” when friendships ended. Air Jordan 4 Retro
I’m happy to say that I didn’t stay “ungood.” People are resilient, and I began to remember that I was a person, too (I didn’t always believe that), and as such I possessed the strength to bounce back. I started to become good when I started to take charge of my life and gain control. At first, though, becoming good through taking charge didn’t quite work because I was doing it wrong. I was trying to take charge of my life by ignoring and outright denying that I had bipolar disorder. It. Was. The. Head. Injury. Period. Turns out, it wasn’t. Looking back over my life, it is very obvious that I have lived with bipolar 1 disorder since young adulthood and perhaps even adolescence. It intensified and grew entirely unmanageable and undeniable after the brain injury, but the brain injury was neither the cause nor the explanation. Just the catalyst that led to diagnosis. Air Max 90 Femme
Yet for a couple years after the diagnosis, I continued to live in denial. I went off my medication once I felt stable because of course I didn’t need it. Golden State Warriors I needed it. Symptoms returned with a vengeance. That’s when I finally stopped denying it. nike air max 2017 femme noir And when I stopped denying it, it stopped controlling me, and I finally became good. Doudoune Parajumpers Pas Chere In owning the fact that I do, indeed, have a mental illness, I have taken charge of my life. Parajumpers Masterpiece Roosevelt I willingly take medication because it keeps me good. Northwestern Wildcats And I stopped beating myself up for losing a job because of psychiatric hospitalization. I realized that I didn’t want that job anyway, and I became free to take control and choose what I wanted to do in life. That was a good feeling. I gave myself permission to follow my passion. I gave myself permission to use my experience with mental illness to help the world develop empathy for those who live with it. The novels I write feature characters living with mental illness. Adidas Pantalons I hope to show what mental illness is really like. I do what I love to help increase understanding of and empathy for real-life people who live with mental illness. I have taken charge of my life, and I am good. I am good because I have owned and taken control over bipolar 1 disorder and anxiety disorders. I have incorporated them into my life to help others be good.


A Life Worth Living is in Reach of Everyone

Sep 5

  Make a Life Worth Living A life worth living. It’s an important concept and is found in various therapeutic approaches to help people achieve well-being. It sounds appealing—a life worth living means that you’ve got really good things in your life that you want to be around for. It sounds appealing because it is appealing. Canada Goose Chilliwack Bomber It feels great to know that your life is a good one and that you have reasons to get up and keep moving. I think that for me the feeling is especially strong because I haven’t always felt that I had such a life. I’ve always been an optimist, even in my darkest times. That glass? It’s always been half-full, not half-empty because I truly was (and am) someone who focuses on what is there rather than what is lacking. Yet there was a period of time during which I could think positive thoughts, but I just didn’t feel them deep within. Air Jordan 2 It was a time of dealing with a brain injury, a diagnosis of mental illness, hospitalizations in a behavioral health hospital, and stress within my family. Nike Benassi There were times that it was difficult to function, and life seemed pretty miserable—definitely not “a life worth living.” That time most definitely didn’t last forever. Air Jordan 4 I took charge of my well-being, embraced the fact that I did, indeed, want to have mental health (as I discussed in the last post, it is possible to have mental health even though you live with mental illness because they’re not either-or states of being). Since that decision, I’ve actively sought a life worth living. Canada Goose Parka Victoria Mental health and well-being are within everyone’s reach. Mental health isn’t reserved for a select few who have money or health or great jobs or fast cars. It’s for everyone. Everyone deserves, and can achieve, a life worth living. It’s not always easy, but it’s possible. Adidas Superstar Femme Rose Having a life worth living doesn’t have prerequisites. You don’t have to have certain things in order to achieve it. It is in reach no matter what you’re dealing with or how bad things are in your life or what mental health struggles you face.

Ways to Make a Life Worth Living

Below is a list of five of my favorite things on the journey to mental health and a life worth living. I have more, but these are some of the most effective things I do on an ongoing basis for my own well-being.

  • Visualize what “a life worth living” looks like to you (and don’t worry about what it “should” look like based on other people’s ideas).
  • Think about what part of that you already have, and focus on those aspects.
  • Decide what changes you want to make, and start making them little by little.
  • While it’s healthy to have a goal you’re working for, don’t forget to notice all of the good things in and around you right now. Adidas Original Zx Flux Homme Let your mind and heart be present in the good parts of the here and now.
  • Keep a gratitude journal (or app on your phone such as Happy Tappers). Writing down 3-5 things every day that you’re grateful for or happy about will help you see that you do have a life worth living.

Part of mental health truly does involve feeling like you love (or at least really like) your life. Air Jordan 2 Retro
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Mental Health is not the Opposite of Mental Illness

Sep 1

mental health awareness month Every May in the United States, people acknowledge mental health and its importance to a life of wellness. It’s a great thing, because mental health is truly in reach of everyone once people are aware of it and how to enhance it.

Mental Health Exists In Spite of Difficulties

Mental health is vital and goes hand-in-hand with well-being. Mental Health Awareness Month is a time to focus on our sense of life satisfaction, resilience, inner strength, core happiness, stress relief, and the like. Part of this celebration is that these things are in reach of every single one of us. They don’t exist instead of difficulties; they exist in spite of them.

Very recently, I had a conversation with a group of people at a NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) office. The mood was one of frustration. The frustration at hand was the idea of choice in life. Can people truly choose how their life goes? Certainly, no one chooses mental illness. Did I choose to sustain a traumatic brain injury (TBI) then receive diagnoses of anxiety disorders and bipolar 1 disorder? No, I did not. (I will say, though, that it hasn’t been all bad and has helped make me the person I am today, strengths and faults alike.) It’s clear that mental illness is not, in fact, a choice.

It is something that a person has to live with and contend with. Functioning (not intelligence) is often impaired, all areas of life are interfered with, there’s medication and side effects and therapy and missed work or unemployment and impacted relationships and financial hardships and facing stigma and a sense of shame. No wonder no one would choose this!

Even with Mental Illness, We Have Choices

However—and there always seems to be a however—does this mean that having a mental illness means that we have no choices in our lives, no power, no control? That mental illness means someone can’t have mental health? The answer to that is a resounding NO. It does not mean that at all. We all have choices.

Despite the way it sounds, mental illness is not at all the opposite of mental health. Mental health is possible for everyone. I’ll use myself as an example. I didn’t choose to have a TBI, anxiety disorders, or bipolar disorder. I certainly didn’t chose to do or to live with some of the things that I did as part of these. (That was another component of the discussion I had. Sometimes mental illness makes people act in ways they wouldn’t if the illness weren’t “acting up.” While true, I would argue that people still do have choices after the fact.) Those things can’t be undone. They’re in the past. They don’t, though, affect my choices going forward.

I can choose to do things to enhance my mental health and well-being. One of the most important components of mental health is the idea that we can make choices in our lives, choices in thought, emotion, and behavior. Even in the face of hardship or despair, we can choose little things to, step by step, increase our well-being. “Choose your attitude” is a common adage. It exists because it’s possible. We can choose. Everyone has a choice and thus can achieve mental health. I’m not naïve. It’s much more complex than just adopting an attitude. But we can adopt an attitude and we can take steps toward well-being.


Mental Illness and Well-being are not Either-Or Conditions

Sep 29

According to the World Health Organization, health is not merely the absence of disease.

Similarly, mental health is not just the absence of mental illness. “Mental health” encompasses a great deal of concepts pertaining to the human experience. The term doesn’t really refer to a single state of being, but rather to a continuum of conditions ranging from mental wellness on one end of the spectrum all the way to mental illness on the other end. Yes, mental wellness and mental illness are two ends of a spectrum. Does this mean, though, that well-being is an all-or-nothing idea? That if someone experiences mental illness to any degree of severity, he or she does not nor cannot experience wellness? Absolutely not! Well-being is attainable by all, no matter where we fall on the spectrum of mental wellness and mental illness. nike air max 2017 femme LSU Tigers Well-being is not the opposite of “ill-being.” It’s not the opposite of anything. Well-being stands alone in that it isn’t the presence or lack of any condition. Well-being also stands with everything else because it can exist alongside anything. What, exactly, IS well-being? Psychologists have been studying the concept for a long time, and they will continue to do so indefinitely. Nike Air Max Tavas It’s at the center of a movement known as positive psychology. It has been the focus of spiritual gurus of various traditions and cultures for millennia. Butler Bulldogs Jerseys VALCLEAN2 CMF This is a really good thing for humanity, and I hope the quest continues. FREE RN Thankfully, though, we don’t have to wait for the final results to be in in order to fully experience well-being. Doudoune Canada Goose Pas Cher

Well-being involves little things, so it's never out of anyone's reach.

Well-being involves little things, so it’s never out of anyone’s reach.

Simply, and literally, put, well-being is the state of being well. That is rather vague, and this vagueness is the beauty of the term. Following the concept set forth by the World Health Organization, being well is more than the absence of illness. We can struggle, we can suffer, and we can still experience well-being. Air Foamposite One I wrestle with anxiety, and I deal with bipolar I disorder. NIKE FLYKNIT LUNAR3 These things can be miserable, yet through it all I can honestly claim to experience well-being. This is possible because we are in charge of our own state of well-being. South Carolina Gamecocks There are numerous things that constitute well-being: gratitude, happiness, outlook, interests, actions, use of our strengths. This, of course, is but a partial list of attributes that contribute to wellness. What is fantastic is that these are things that originate from within each of us. None of these things is dependent upon external circumstances or on having perfect mental health. Consider happiness as an example. Shane Vereen Canada Goose Chilliwack Bomber It is a state of contentment that is within everyone’s reach because it has little to do with external things and everything to do with our inner attitudes and belief systems. Study after study indicates that external things don’t bring us lasting happiness. Moncler Manteaux As long as our basic needs are met, an abundance of material things just doesn’t increase lasting inner happiness. How we think about things is what brings contentment. Fair enough. Ohio State Buckeyes But what about someone who has a mental illness? Can he or she be happy? Absolutely yes. Hey, doesn’t happiness come from within? And what if someone’s “within” is ill? How does it work? It works because wellness is not merely the absence of illness. We all have the ability to be happy. We can all choose what we focus on and we can choose what our priorities are. Attending to our own values and priorities is a big part of feeling happiness and contentment. I’ll use a personal example to illustrate. As I mentioned, I have bipolar I disorder. Simplified (over-simplified, really), this involves states of mania alternating with states of depression. By its nature, the mania definitely contributes to a feeling of euphoria. Depression, though, is not famous for its feeling of happiness. PUMA evoSPEED homme One would think that anyone experiencing depression, whether as a part of bipolar disorder or on its own, would not feel happy. To be sure, as I know firsthand, it’s hard to feel cheery and bubbly during depression. Often, things feel downright terrible. Yet, it is entirely possible to find things that make us happy. Sometimes it absolutely can’t be something huge, a big-picture thing that miraculously cures depression. nike air max 2017 femme grise It just doesn’t work that way. However, when I’m depressed, I look for little things each day that either bring happiness or remind me of times that I am happy, and doing this helps. So, while I experience happiness differently during times of depression, I still can find the ability within myself to bring a degree of contentment. Further, well-being doesn’t just mean “happiness.” It involves many different things that contribute to our health and our lives in a positive way. Canada Goose Rideau Parka Well-being is a way of being in life and within ourselves. It’s for everyone, with or without mental illness. Mujer Air Jordan 13 It’s an inherent power possessed by every human being, and we need to trust our own ability—and the ability of others—to experience wellness in any circumstances.


Four Ways to Reduce the Stigma Around Mental Illness

Sep 20

I participated in the Portland NAMI Walk on May 19, 2013. My daughter and I walked with our local team to help raise awareness for mental illness.

I participated in the Portland NAMI Walk on May 19, 2013.

On the third Sunday of May, the third Sunday of National Mental Health Awareness month two very different things occurred that reinforced for me the importance of increasing understanding of what mental illness really is. Early in the afternoon, my daughter and I participated in the Portland NAMI Walk. It was a very large crowd that walked the five kilometer route to illustrate how many people are impacted by mental illness. Late in the day, the season finale of The Simpsons aired on Fox. It was the only episode of the entire season that I watched, and I’m glad I tuned in to this one because of one single line. Asics Gel Lyte 5 Femme At one point in the episode, a character named Reverend Lovejoy received a text message from his wife. The text irritated him, and as he dismissed it, he grumbled about her and referred to her as “The Bipolar Express.” That there are negative judgments surrounding mental illness is well-known. Earlier this month, I wrote a post equating stigma to bullying. Stigma is so damaging that there is a growing movement in mental health circles to reduce it, and the reduction of stigma is one of the many focuses of mental health awareness month. The good news is that it’s possible to reduce the power that stigma holds over us all. Minnesota Golden Gophers Jerseys It is indeed helpful that national organizations such as the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) and Bring Change 2 Mind have huge campaigns to raise awareness in the United States. It’s beneficial too that many other countries have organizations working toward this common goal. New Balance Femme Groups such as the Canadian Mental Health Association and Time to Change (UK) are making great strides to increase awareness of mental health issues and to end stigma. asics pas cher We do need their efforts. Canada Goose Citadel Parka Their efforts, though, won’t work at all if the individuals in our societies don’t join in. I don’t believe for a second that most people want stigma to continue. I do think, though, that confronting stigma and doing things to bring it to an end can be tricky. Most individuals don’t have the resources to organize large-scale walks or make videos, billboards or thousands of t-shirts. Zapatillas ROSHE ONE Thankfully, this isn’t necessary at all. Nike Air Foamposite Pro These things are being done already. So what can we “little guys” do? Surprisingly, there’s plenty that you and I can do to help make this a kinder, gentler world.
We can all do things to increase understanding and reduce the stigma surrounding mental illness.

We can all do things to increase understanding and reduce the stigma surrounding mental illness.

1. Notice things that cause misunderstandings and perpetuate stigma.

  • Watch/read the news and pay attention to how mental illness is discussed and portrayed
  • Watch for stereotypes and negative references on TV and in the movies.

2. Pay attention to language. Avoid using words like

  • Psychotic
  • Psycho
  • Schizo
  • Crazy
  • Nut job
  • Insane
  • Looney bin
  • Schizophrenic (often used as a derogatory adjective to describe erratic behavior)
  • Bipolar (again, often used as a derogatory adjective)

This is important in other ways, too. Think of how often words like “retard,” “retarded,” and “gay” are used in very negative ways. Nike Jordan 11 Future   3. Watch for events, such as NAMI Walks, in your area.

  • Talk about the event with people you know.
  • If you know someone who’s participating, support them with encouraging words.

  4. Have conversations!

  • When you notice stereotypes and stigma perpetuated on TV, in the news, etc. talk about it with people you know.
  • Avoid use of derogatory words in your casual, everyday language.
  • When you hear negative stereotypes or language, take the opportunity to nonchalantly begin a discussion about the inaccuracy and impact of such stereotypes.

  We as individuals are as powerful as large organizations.


Mental Health Tip: Pay Attention to What You Pay Attention To

Sep 14

Have you ever been innocently going about your business, doing whatever it is that you’re doing, and happen to glance at one of your fingers only to discover a paper cut or other such invasion of your skin? You had absolutely no idea it was there, but suddenly there it is. And now it hurts. canada goose chilliwack bomber It didn’t hurt before. Nike Air Jordan 11 Womens
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Better for Mental Health: Cleaning or Kayaking?

Sep 11

Stop and smell the flowers. Or go inside and wash the floors. Whatever helps your mental health and well-being in the moment.

Stop and smell the flowers. Or go inside and wash the floors. ADIDAS VALCLEAN2 CMF Whatever helps your mental health and well-being in the moment.

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